Aging

On this festive day, as I celebrate my 40th Birthday, I have decided to write about aging. Uh Oh...midlife crisis eminent...Are you kidding me? I am not feeling old at all, in fact younger than I did when I was 25. What I find interesting, is how the world views people over 40 and how the 40 year olds view themselves.

I realized over the last few months that surveys, the media, dating sites,etc.. seem to have 40 as a cut off age. People advertise..., anyone under 40...or check the box if you are between 32 and 40. What is supposed to happen when you turn 40 exactly, that makes you change so greatly? Do I look different than I did yesterday when I was still 39?

Social conditioning seems to have us putting ourselves out to pasture. I see this, but in no way feel it myself. I am still the crazed 12 year old I have always been and always will be. However, that isn't the case for everyone.

A friend of mine, in his 40's constantly puts himself down. He states, "That he isn't the man he used to be." Talk about putting words into actions. He is depressed, lacking healthy relationships, and very lonely. In reality, he has made himself into, "not the man he used to be.

I have a different approach to getting older, which makes it quite invigorating. There atwo simple philosophies I live by; one yogic, the other, everyday wisdom.
First in yogic terms, you are only as young as your spine is flexible. I know women who can do full back bends and are 80? In everyday terms, as I stated earlier this week. The first true signs of age are not wrinkles, but regrets. When you look a regrets, see them as opportunities. It may change the way you are feeling.

How are you feeling about your age and where you are right ? Me, I am 40 and fabulous. I know what I want out of life, I know what I have to offer, and everyday is a feel good day, because I am the Boss! Heaven on Earth!

Have a great weekend.
Be good to yourselves and each other.
Best,
Thomas