Honestly- I'm just not that into you.

I had the chance to go on a date on Sunday, which actually only lasted about 15 minutes. No, it's not the kind of date you are thinking about...haha. It was a let's meet, get to know each other, have coffee, etc...To protect the identity of this person, I will refer to them as "the date".

"The date" decided we should meet at a McDonald's parking lot, (which should have been my first clue). "The date" was running late, but text ed me. I sat and waited for about 20 minutes. Strike one, I am not a fan of tardiness. When "the dat"e finally arrived, they did not look anything like the pictures emailed to me. In fact, quite a bit older and heavier. Strike two! Not that older and heavier wasn't OK, but the misrepresentation was not appreciated. Have you been there?

We chatted for a few moments in the parking lot and I suggested we go somewhere for coffee(hoping McDonald's wasn't an option). However, being honest with myself I was just being nice. I wasn't attracted or interested in "the date" what so ever. I thought at best we could become friends, but "the date" was so indecisive about everything I had no idea what to do.

Abruptly, "the dat"e said, "ya know I think I'm gonna head out, I have a lot to do today, is that ok?" I said, "sure no problem." As "the date" drove away I thought, "Wow, brushed off by someone I had no interest in anyway."

As I drove home, I thought "the date" was kind of a jerk , but then I realized the gift that had been granted me. My date released me from a situation I didn't know how to get out of myself. I realized that I tend to sacrifice my feeling and wants for others. I needed to hear honesty....so I could learn honesty. The fact was I was not at all "into" my date, but would have stuck it out so they didn't feel bad or rejected. That would have done us both a disservice and I would have been misrepresenting my feelings. I am so thankful that "the date" just wasn't that into me.

So be honest, but gentle in your communications today. You really can say... in a nice way, "I am just not that into you."

Take care of yourselves and each other.
Best,
Thomas